I just turned down an amazing job opportunity across the country a few weeks ago.
I love my family. I do. And I knew that when we first had plans on starting a family that everything else would be placed on the back burner. Nevertheless I’m bummed out. When I first joined this organization, it was because of the unimaginable opportunities that came with it. If you can think of a position, it probably exists. And if it doesn’t exists, it can likely be created. I’ve been in this country for close to 25 years and sadly have only seen just a small fraction of it. It would be AMAZING to be able to see more of this country and to be able to grow my resume. Any other working mamas out there feel that they are “giving up” a part of themselves for their family?
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Last week was honestly the toughest week since Emily was born. Up until now, Emily has honesty been a really good baby and easy to care for. Whenever she cries, there's always a reason and it can easily be solved ̶ be it hunger, needing a diaper change or just wanting her pacifier. She's always been a good sleeper and if she doesn't sleep through the night, she goes back to sleep right after feeding.
Between teething, sleep regression and Emily learning how to turn over, I haven't had much sleep and I'm often left with a crying baby. I'm excited that she's learned to turn over (back to tummy) but she gets frustrated when she can't turn back and starts crying. I kept flipping her back over but then she would turn back onto her tummy again, as if she can't help herself and must turn over onto her tummy like a reflex. Then she would become overtired because she can't sleep since she keeps turning herself over whenever she's on her back. So many times I’ve had to remind myself that it’s okay to let the baby cry it out and that it’s okay to ask for help. (On work nights and work days, I am the sole caregiver of Emily, as Drew has to work. I do not wake him at night and take care of any feedings or needs that Emily has at night.) Parenting is hard and it really does take a village. Just remember that a bad day doesn’t make a bad mommy. Luckily, by the end of the week, Emily figured out how to turn back onto her back, and turning onto her tummy has become less of a reflex. I feel so blessed to have such a supportive and understanding family to help me and come to my rescue, no questions asked. Thank you so much! <3 I’ve tried numerous baby apps during the first few weeks with Emily. The best baby app I found was Ovia Parenting, which we still use.
Why use a baby app? During the first week postpartum, our midwife kept asking about the number of diapers, and the number and duration of feeds. At first it was easy because Drew would keep track for me at the hospital. (Turns out Drew was just guessing at the times). Once we were home, I made sure to look at the time at the start and end of every feeding but my baby brain kicked in (it never goes away!). By the time the midwife asked, I had forgotten. The Ovia Parenting app was a lifesaver (for both breastfeeding and bottle feeding). I love that if you forget to start the timer or started late, you could manually adjust the start time. Even once the midwife stopped asking about Emily’s feeds, Drew (the more concerned parent) kept badgering me about when Emily last fed and how much milk she had. With the app, I was about to grant Drew access so that he could keep track himself. It also helped me because I didn’t need to constantly get an update from him whenever he did the last diaper change or feeding so that I could update the app. The Ovia Parenting app also came in handy when I started to put Emily on a feeding schedule at 2 months, and now at 3 months, when I’m starting to put her on a nap schedule. With the app, I was able to keep track of Emily’s routine, and from there, I was able to come up with a schedule that matched her routines. |
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